I’m not proud to admit that I didn’t know how to feel when I first heard Simone Biles backed out of the team’s all-around competition. In my younger years, I was an athlete trained to put the team’s needs above my own. As a mother, I was trained to put the needs of my children above my own. As a wife, I’ve been told to put the needs of my husband above myself. The constant subliminal messaging was firmly woven into the fabric of my being: put the needs and welfare of others above your own—no matter what the cost.
An Open Letter to Men About Sexual Harassment/Assault/Rape Dear Men, As you know, countless women are coming out and talking openly about their experiences with sexual harassment, assault and rape (#MeToo). They’re speaking out in growing numbers against men who mis-use power—and for the first time in history, our world is hearing the women. For [...]
Toxic Masculinity and the Cost: What Men Don’t Speak About Toxic masculinity has done a number on men. It teaches them to shut down, toughen up and don’t talk. As a result, many men . . . don’t talk. They don’t talk to their wives. They don’t talk to their friends. They keep things superficial [...]
Words Matter Everywhere: At Home, Work and in the World Words have the power to engender trust, ignite passion, heal a broken heart and/or cause a broken heart. They can help people rise or contribute to a person’s fall. They can help save relationships or end them. They even have the power to start wars [...]
The “Grace” and Aziz Ansari Story: What Men Can Learn The #MeToo movement broke open the floodgates and has left many men re-examining their behaviors regarding women and sex. Many are anxiously waiting for the next wave of men to be called out and hoping they will not be among them. But the real [...]
An Open Letter to Tony Robbins #MeToo Dear Tony, I can only imagine what your world has been like since your March 15th San Jose event. The posting of the interaction between you and Nanine McCool regarding your #MeToo comments led to a tsunami of Facebook posts, tweets, articles, etc., very few of which [...]
Hate Breeds More Hate Studies have shown that violence, by and large, leads to more violence. This is as true in your home as it is in the world. Research has shown that spanking children results in a higher incidence of aggression, depression and anti-social behavior in children. Domestic violence between spouses has been shown [...]