I’m not proud to admit that I didn’t know how to feel when I first heard Simone Biles backed out of the team’s all-around competition. In my younger years, I was an athlete trained to put the team’s needs above my own. As a mother, I was trained to put the needs of my children above my own. As a wife, I’ve been told to put the needs of my husband above myself. The constant subliminal messaging was firmly woven into the fabric of my being: put the needs and welfare of others above your own—no matter what the cost.

Women and the Loss of Self To all the women who have ever said, “I don’t even recognize who I am anymore.” Life started as an experiment in daring to find yourself, speak for yourself and fight for yourself. You dared to say no to others and yes to yourself, only to find that you [...]
Unhealthy Relationships: Why in the World Are You Staying? I cannot tell you how many people, women in particular, stay in ridiculously unhealthy relationships. This pattern is due, in part, to the unhealthy socialization messages we give females. The messages to women and young girls are all about being attractive enough to find a man [...]
10 Ways Women Give Their Power Away (Part II) Several weeks ago, I wrote the first part of this post; here is part II and the remaining five ways women give their power away. These ten ways are some of the most common ways we give our power away; there are many other smaller ways. [...]
Weinstein and Women: Women, Are We Our Own Worst Enemies? More than ten women to date have accused yet another powerful man of sexual harassment, assault and/or rape (https://www.nytimes.com/2017/10/05/us/harvey-weinstein-harassment-allegations.html). Harvey Weinstein, a well-known Hollywood producer, has been accused of sexually violating several actresses, models and/or employees over the span of three decades. In addition, Weinstein [...]
An Open Letter to Men About Sexual Harassment/Assault/Rape Dear Men, As you know, countless women are coming out and talking openly about their experiences with sexual harassment, assault and rape (#MeToo). They’re speaking out in growing numbers against men who mis-use power—and for the first time in history, our world is hearing the women. For [...]
Toxic Masculinity and the Cost: What Men Don’t Speak About Toxic masculinity has done a number on men. It teaches them to shut down, toughen up and don’t talk. As a result, many men . . . don’t talk. They don’t talk to their wives. They don’t talk to their friends. They keep things superficial [...]
Words Matter Everywhere: At Home, Work and in the World Words have the power to engender trust, ignite passion, heal a broken heart and/or cause a broken heart. They can help people rise or contribute to a person’s fall. They can help save relationships or end them. They even have the power to start wars [...]
Sexual Harassment: Another Man Down To say “the tides are changing” regarding women’s voices being heard and men paying for sexual harassment is an understatement. Matt Lauer is the latest man to lose his job following a sexual harassment accusation. The list of men going down is getting longer by the day and the number [...]
Seeing Through the Lies: A Cheat Sheet (Part I) At a time when lies, half-truths and finger-pointing are rampant, it’s more important than ever to have a clear head. Our world today seems to be struggling with a crisis of honesty and integrity—starting at the top and trickling down to all levels of humanity. From [...]

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