I’m not proud to admit that I didn’t know how to feel when I first heard Simone Biles backed out of the team’s all-around competition. In my younger years, I was an athlete trained to put the team’s needs above my own. As a mother, I was trained to put the needs of my children above my own. As a wife, I’ve been told to put the needs of my husband above myself. The constant subliminal messaging was firmly woven into the fabric of my being: put the needs and welfare of others above your own—no matter what the cost.
Women and the Loss of Self To all the women who have ever said, “I don’t even recognize who I am anymore.” Life started as an experiment in daring to find yourself, speak for yourself and fight for yourself. You dared to say no to others and yes to yourself, only to find that you [...]
10 Ways Women Give Their Power Away (Part II) Several weeks ago, I wrote the first part of this post; here is part II and the remaining five ways women give their power away. These ten ways are some of the most common ways we give our power away; there are many other smaller ways. [...]
Seeing Through the Lies: A Cheat Sheet (Part I) At a time when lies, half-truths and finger-pointing are rampant, it’s more important than ever to have a clear head. Our world today seems to be struggling with a crisis of honesty and integrity—starting at the top and trickling down to all levels of humanity. From [...]
Is Our World Trying to Turn Men into Women? I often hear men complain that women, or our world, want to “turn men into women.” Men who believe this to be so, complain that there’s a push to make men emotional, feminine, wimps or worse. This sentiment is the most absurd spin I’ve ever heard. [...]
The Spin: Should We Be Afraid for Our Sons? We live in a world today where people have adopted, mastered and doubled down on the scary strategy of The Spin. The spin is about turning someone’s upset into an upset of your choosing. Typically, your upset will be related to the other person’s, but you [...]
Stop the Excuses and Deal with the Behaviors Do you ever find yourself excusing others for their poor behaviors? Have you heard yourself say things like: • That’s just who he is. He’s really quite harmless, even though he says hurtful things. • She’s just reactive. The kids and I know to not get into [...]