I’m not proud to admit that I didn’t know how to feel when I first heard Simone Biles backed out of the team’s all-around competition. In my younger years, I was an athlete trained to put the team’s needs above my own. As a mother, I was trained to put the needs of my children above my own. As a wife, I’ve been told to put the needs of my husband above myself. The constant subliminal messaging was firmly woven into the fabric of my being: put the needs and welfare of others above your own—no matter what the cost.
Women and the Loss of Self To all the women who have ever said, “I don’t even recognize who I am anymore.” Life started as an experiment in daring to find yourself, speak for yourself and fight for yourself. You dared to say no to others and yes to yourself, only to find that you [...]
Unhealthy Relationships: Why in the World Are You Staying? I cannot tell you how many people, women in particular, stay in ridiculously unhealthy relationships. This pattern is due, in part, to the unhealthy socialization messages we give females. The messages to women and young girls are all about being attractive enough to find a man [...]
10 Ways Women Give Their Power Away (Part II) Several weeks ago, I wrote the first part of this post; here is part II and the remaining five ways women give their power away. These ten ways are some of the most common ways we give our power away; there are many other smaller ways. [...]
Is This Harming Your Relationships, Too? Many people engage in this harmful practice without realizing how detrimental it is to relationships. They do it under the guise of being nice and not wanting to rock the boat. More times than not, it has the opposite effect and over time it tips the boat over. Avoiding [...]
She Accuses, He Denies, the World Attacks: Sound Familiar? And still she rises! Another powerful man has been accused of sexual assault. Another female accuser is having her life altered because she came forward. Brett Kavanaugh’s accuser, Christine Blasey Ford, has come forward after 35 years to state that Brett Kavanaugh—the man going after the [...]
Managing Fear Rather Than Allowing it to Manage You All human beings experience fear. Some are afraid of sharing their opinion, having an honest conversation with their loved one or asking for what they want. Others are afraid of changing jobs, leaving a bad marriage or going after their dreams. And still, others, are afraid [...]
Stop the Excuses and Deal with the Behaviors Do you ever find yourself excusing others for their poor behaviors? Have you heard yourself say things like: • That’s just who he is. He’s really quite harmless, even though he says hurtful things. • She’s just reactive. The kids and I know to not get into [...]