Throughout the years, I’ve worked with hundreds of women, men and couples, trained countless therapists across the country on how to work with couples, given speeches, taught tele-classes and advised leaders. I’m passionate about doing my part to help women, men, leaders and therapists to step up and step into the world in a whole new way. I’m particularly passionate about working with women and couples. Why?
I’ve watched women settle for less than they deserve for most of my life. I watched family members, friends, colleagues, clients and strangers settle for situations I wouldn’t want for my worst enemy. I watched women cower to rage, complain about rage, beg for the rage to stop and on and on. What I seldom saw was women putting an end to that rage. I’ve watched women plead, beg, yell, scream and cry to others in an attempt to get more help with the kids, the house, their sanity. Seldom do I witness women calmly and effectively stop over-doing and allowing others to feel the effect of this decision. I’ve watched many a woman sleep with a man in an effort to “get” him, only to later be heartbroken when she realized she is only one of many he is sleeping with. Far too many women are not willing to risk losing a man they never had by asking for exclusivity. I’ve watched women stay in jobs with abusive bosses, “mean girl” environments and toxic teams because they felt they had no other options. But there are seldom no other options.
I’m tired of watching women settle. I hated watching it when I was a child and I hate it now that I’m a grownup. My work is about — I’m about — helping women to step into the world in a new way…as an equal, deserving of great things and, most certainly, great relationships. The cost of settling for anything less is far too high.